Monday motivation - the biggest thing that holds us back and the three things to do about it.
Transformational Confidence Coach | Facilitator & Speaker | MD Polka Dot Powerhouse UK Chapter
Helping female leaders in financial services confidently elevate themselves and their career.
the biggest thing that holds us back and the three things to do about it
Hi everyone, it's me Kirsteen with some Monday Motivation. Today I want to talk about one of the biggest things that holds us back and stops us from doing things or delays us from doing, and that is our thoughts.
There are loads of studies that talk about how many thoughts a day we have. And the general consensus is around 6000 thoughts every day we have and the majority of those are negative, and the majority of those are on repeat. So what that means is that we are regularly having unhelpful thoughts. And studies show that unhelpful thoughts when we're repeating this behaviour, it causes anxiety, and stress.
There are also studies that show that this repeated unhelpful thought behaviour contributes to dementia and Alzheimer's. So this is really scary stuff. Not only is this stopping us from doing the things we want to do, but there are there is a lot of evidence that shows that this has real significant health implications. Which means we need to do something about it.
So I have three things that I would encourage you to do if you feel that you are struggling with unhelpful thoughts.
1. Be conscious of your thoughts
The first thing is to be really conscious about what you're thinking and remember that you get to choose your thoughts. So one of the things that is always in my mind is if I'm going to think worst case scenario, then I'm going to definitely jump into best case scenario straight after I've done that. And I've learned to do this because I used to spend most of my time in worst case scenario, and as much as that can be helpful because you're thinking, Well, if the worst happens, how would I deal with it? It's quite resourceful and when you can figure out how do you deal with the worst case scenario that feels like, oh, again, it's also important to think about the best possible outcome for whatever it is, but healthy, that's positive and uplifting. So as I said, one of my roles is if I'm going to go worst case scenario, I'm also going to go best case scenario.
2. rewire yourself and look for the good
The second thing is to rewire yourself and look for the good. So whenever you are noticing these things that aren't right, or noticing things, be problems, find two or three other things that are actually positive. And when you do that, it's amazing how much better you feel when you're looking for both we I'm definitely wired to look for problems and then to figure out how to fix them. I spent my whole life trying to fix problems. And so that that can that can take a toll because that means that the first thing I find is a problem. So shift into finding, finding the beauty, finding the goodness, finding things that make you smile.
3. stop and allow ourselves to feel whatever is good
And the third thing is allow yourself to absorb them. So sometimes we're in such a hurry, that we we don't stop and allow ourselves to feel whatever is good. We've just noticed it and go next. And I know from my own experience and for many of my clients, when we've achieved something that we've been trying to achieve for a long time, instead of actually celebrating that we just think what's next. And so this is great in one way because it means you're continuing forward. But in another way it means you're not allowing yourself to actually feel and celebrate your successes, and that's massively important.
So I hope you find that helpful. I'd love to know what you think. Have a brilliant rest of the week, and I'll talk to you soon.
Take care till next Monday
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